responsibilityTag

Holding Yourself Accountable is Not the Same as Beating Yourself Up

Reading even one of my blog posts you’d pick up on the fact that I hold personal responsibility as a significant virtue. If we don’t hold ourselves and our family members accountable for our actions, then our chances for having a happy healthy functioning family significantly decreases. Recently I found myself indulging in the great injustice of beating myself up instead of holding myself accountable. I say indulging because our minds trick us into thinking that this mental…

Honest Confessions of an Imperfect Parent

I am the first to admit that I am not a perfect parent. I genuinely have no concept of what that would even mean. I vaguely discuss how I wasn’t always a peaceful parent in About Peace of Cake Parenting. What I couldn’t possibly portray on that one page was: How many times I experience defeat. How I am unsure if the bad habits that were hardwired into me as a child will ever be completely gone or…

Why Your Being Fat is Bad for Your Child

This topic is uncomfortable. It will probably piss some people off. I might even loose some followers because of it. I get it, talking about how being fat is bad is not “politically correct”. Too bad. It is not my job to make you feel good. It is not my job to be “politically correct”. It is my job to tell the truth. It is my job, as a blogger about peaceful parenting, to inform you of the…

The Right to Judgement

My husband and I were having one of our nightly conversations, when he said, “who am I to judge?”. I have said this in the past, as I’m sure many of you have. For some reason, when he said it this time I felt a strong push back against the entire phrase. I thought this is kind of a ridiculous thing to say. Before I continued the conversation with my husband, I rushed to the bedroom to document…

Things Parents Should do in Front of Their Kids

Parents are the foundation of the family. Their bond created the family. The way the parents interact teaches the child how to act in their own relationships. Not just romantic relationships when the child is older, but all of them, including the one they have with you. Your child learns by absorbing the interactions of the relationships surrounding them. Most people think, `if I show them love and kindness then they will learn how to be loving and…

The Power Struggle is Real

Let me start by defining what a power struggle is. When you try to impose your will on, or decide for your child without a negotiation or a conversation taking place; and your child is refusing to let you get away with it. Do you find yourself in arguments with your child several times a day? You know, the ones that come out of nowhere and escalate way too fast? Those are power struggles. I have been thinking about how…

I Was Wrong, You Were Right

Personal responsibility isn’t always easy. In fact, I would argue that it is one of the hardest things about life. It is, however, one of the most meaningful gifts you can give to your child. You, as the parent, are setting a standard of living for your child. Your actions, and non-actions, are being absorbed by your child all day. If you are unwilling to hold yourself accountable, then you can expect that your child will not to…