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The Autonomy of a Child

There are a few things that I think can completely rearrange the dynamic of your entire family: aggression (obviously), manipulation, passivity, inconsistency, and expecting instant gratification. This is because your child is not a computer, or a robot. Thinking that you should be able to input information and then have them immediately output the action every time is ludicrous, and it’s just asking for trouble. I swear children are on a mission to remind you, and the world,…

Listen to Your Gut

Did you know that you have a second brain? Yeah, it’s in your gut. You might feel nauseous before making a big decision; that’s your gut telling you you’re stressed. You might feel like you have a knot in your stomach after you did something you knew was wrong; that’s your gut holding you accountable. You might feel flutters when you get into a heated debate; that’s your gut reminding you that you have limits. Here’s what PsychologyToday…

How to Tell if You’re Raising an Empathetic Child

We can all agree that being able to vicariously experience someone else’s feelings is an admirable quality. It would be hard to argue that having empathy is a bad thing. Having well developed empathy is necessary in order to have a relationship, a family, children; you know, a life. The reason is because empathy helps you put yourself in someone else’s shoes. The more empathy you have the better understanding you have of what someone else is going through….

If You Let Your Kids Make Donuts Instead of Doing School

Chances are, the results will be more gratifying than you’d expect. As homeschooling parents we try our best to stay on track while making everything exciting and interesting. However there are somethings that require lots of practice, like: writing, reading, and basic math. You can’t just put together one fun math lesson and generate an expert. You have to make mental pathways in the brain to memorize your basic math problems, for example. This happens through repetition of the lesson….

How Your Words Affect Your Actions

I’m currently working through a Nathaniel Branden book called The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. I’ve been working through this book for a while because it is very intense work and I’m a busy mom. For those of you who don’t know, Nathaniel Branden was a prominent psychotherapist in the 1960’s. He promoted the philosophy of Ayn Rand and is known for his work on self-esteem.1 After you read Branden (and I highly suggest that you do) try reading a Rand novel,…

10 Reasons I Don’t Want My Children to Fear Me

I am constantly thinking about the dysfunctional mindset I had before becoming a peaceful parent. I think about how so much of what I thought was influenced by things friends and family said, along with things on TV and social media. One of the things I’ve consistently seen is having children that fear you being a point of pride. Looking at it now I see that this mindset is based on the premise that fear equals respect. I…

How to Implement a Healthy Bedtime Routine

Last week I talked about why my family implements a bedtime. There are a lot of people who think that bedtimes go against the peaceful parenting rules but I disagree. Obviously, there are some methods of enforcing the bedtime that break those rules and that is why I thought we should discuss how to implement a healthy bedtime routine. No force involved. My husband and I started implementing our son’s bedtime when he was a month old. Wait…what?…

Why We Have a Bedtime

  I know a lot of peaceful parents who don’t have a bedtime. Obviously, this is perfectly fine if it works for you and your family. I want to be clear here, I do not think that you are doing anything wrong if you don’t have a bedtime and no one in your family is suffering. More power to you. I honestly wish I could do it that way. This is more for people who may have heard the…

Live With Integrity

About a month ago I was on the phone having a conversation with my older brother when I got the idea for this post, though I didn’t know it just yet. When talking to this man you know you will get a genuine and quality conversation. There is always a chance that you will be glued to your phone for three hours (or more). But the thing is, you won’t even notice the time because the ideas you…

Stop Giving Ultimatums and Start Giving Choices

One of the quickest ways to get into an infuriating power struggle with your child is to give them an  ultimatum. “Clean your room or you’re not playing outside.” “Finish your vegetables or you won’t get desert.” “Stop being loud or  you’re going to bed early.” These are all examples of ultimatums. While some of these might be fair natural consequences presenting them in ultimatum form will always result badly. You Can Get Free Gift Cards For Shopping,…