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You Can’t Make Me

Four famous words uttered at least once by every kid at some point: you can’t make me. I know when I was a child this started a war between my parents and I. They were willing to use force and I was one quarter their size; of course they could make me. Every parent has the physical ability to make their child do almost anything. When you threaten a child’s well being their natural survival instincts kick in…

Quick Critical Thinking Exercise

Sometimes we are struggling to communicate with our children and we don’t have time to read a 1,352 word article on how to verbally go through the next conversation. Sometimes we are so mentally drained from struggling to have the verbal conversation that we fear moving forward. I get it. I’ve been there. I’m not a unicorn. I didn’t magically transform from a parent unable to handle simple problems into a perfectly patient parent who can handle anything….

5 Ways to Manage Anger

Growing up in a less than peaceful household, run by a military man who experienced extreme levels of abuse himself (at the hands of a real life villain), lead to my angry switch being easily tripped. For the longest time I just thought, “I’m just short tempered. It’s just the way that I am because my dad is short tempered. There’s nothing I can do about it”. Which was really only half true, I was short tempered, but…

How To Make an Owl Bird Feeder

So this post is going to be a little bit different. I have done “how to” posts in the past but this one is going to be a how to, craft edition. I got a lot of love on IG and I wanted to share how we did it. I posted the instructions on Facebook but I thought “a couple of more posts and people will not have the patience to scroll through old feeds to find the…

Parents Are Not Exempt From Apologizing

We have all made mistakes as parents. I am certainly not exempt from relapsing into the bad communication that was provided to me as a child. Being a peaceful parent does not mean being a perfect parent. Who even knows what a perfect parent would look like? I’ll be the first to admit that I think a perfect parent is something that doesn’t exist. I found myself apologizing to one of my littles again the other day. That…

Honey, I Love You, That’s All She Wrote

This is going to be far different than any of my other posts. Usually I give advice, a how to, or a do’s and don’ts list. Today it will be as if you are a heart surgeon and I am your patient; you will have a clear view of my heart. As those of you who follow me regularly know, Bently broke his leg a little over a week ago. He has been the biggest trooper through, what has…

Solving Sibling Conflicts

Do you ever feel like t you are able to accomplish is standing in the middle of the war ground of your children’s battles, on some days? I know how you feel. It always seemed like this occurred when I was trying to do anything productive. I would get interrupted, roughly 50 times, to solve simple problems. Problems that seemed to escalate quite quickly without my assistance. I started to become frustrated with this once I had, not only,…

The Importance of Virtue

This title probably sounds redundant; most people wouldn’t argue the importance of virtue. Yet, I feel like this simple premise gets lost somewhere between understanding it and living it. Especially when it comes to parenting. We tell our children not to scream, yet the majority of parents yell. We tell our children not to hit, yet the majority of parents spank.” About 94 percent of parents of children ages three to four in the United States report having…

4, 3, 2, 1…Meltdown

Meltdowns can be extremely challenging for both the child and the parent. What most parents tend to do, usually without even realizing it, is to “meltdown” themselves. This is counterproductive and creates more stress for you and your child. We must first acknowledge that our children have meltdowns because they have seen their parents handle stress poorly. Looking rationally at a meltdown: it is simply a child unable to, reasonably, deal with the situation in front of them. Negotiation…

Boys Will be Boys or so They Say but Boys Need Their Dads to be Men One Day

  Today I want to talk about DADS! I have been thinking a lot about the importance of a dad’s presence in a child’s life. Especially, in the life of a young boy. I would say it’s crucial, to put it mildly. Once you see the statistics you will realize why crucial might be too delicate a word.  I started noticing the family becoming less valued. I found myself wondering, how did this happen? Unfortunately, I believe it…