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R-E-S-P-E-C-T Find Out What it Means to Me

Oh, sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me… Sorry, I couldn’t help myself. I’m talking about getting respect from your child but I can’t even think about the word respect without this song blaring in my mind. Good work Aretha! Anyway, the first thing I will say should not come as a surprise to anyone who has read even one of my articles. If you want respect from your…

The Parent’s Role in Disputes Between Siblings

We have all had those days when our children just can’t get along with each other. I find that eventually we go into “fed-up mode” and we end up saying something like: “You guys, knock it off. Just stop”. I’m sure this happens to everyone with more than one child from time to time. It has certainly happened to me, more times than I care to admit. Unfortunately, this is not the best approach to dealing with our…

How You Impact Your Child’s Self-Esteem

Self-Esteem is a crucial aspect of being a successful and functional individual. Unfortunately, most of the current parenting practices have pretty negative effects on the child’s self-esteem. I did not have a good self-esteem for a long time. I honestly didn’t know how bad it was until I read Nathaniel Branden’s – How to Raise Your Self-Esteem: The Proven Action-Oriented Approach to Greater Self-Respect and Self-Confidence. This book slapped me in the face with truths that couldn’t be…

The Power Struggle is Real

Let me start by defining what a power struggle is. When you try to impose your will on, or decide for your child without a negotiation or a conversation taking place; and your child is refusing to let you get away with it. Do you find yourself in arguments with your child several times a day? You know, the ones that come out of nowhere and escalate way too fast? Those are power struggles. I have been thinking about how…

Stop Giving Non-Answers

Being a parent, your brain is constantly swimming in a sea of thoughts; am I doing the right thing, how can I improve, are all the bills paid, do I need anything from the store, what’s for dinner, etc. Children, being the beautiful curious creatures that they are, ask a lot of questions. This is the natural state of an intelligent human. Question asking leads to answers, which leads to knowledge. Of course, we are tired, we have…

I Was Wrong, You Were Right

Personal responsibility isn’t always easy. In fact, I would argue that it is one of the hardest things about life. It is, however, one of the most meaningful gifts you can give to your child. You, as the parent, are setting a standard of living for your child. Your actions, and non-actions, are being absorbed by your child all day. If you are unwilling to hold yourself accountable, then you can expect that your child will not to…

Why Spanking Your Child is Abuse

This title may seem a bit profound, because it is. I want the idea of using physical force against a child to be viewed one way and one way only, wrong. One of my moral principles is “you don’t use force against me, I don’t use force against you”. I’ll throw a caveat here, just to be safe; if your child is in danger, physically removing them from said danger would be classified as protection, not aggression.. Now,…