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Listen to Your Gut

Did you know that you have a second brain? Yeah, it’s in your gut. You might feel nauseous before making a big decision; that’s your gut telling you you’re stressed. You might feel like you have a knot in your stomach after you did something you knew was wrong; that’s your gut holding you accountable. You might feel flutters when you get into a heated debate; that’s your gut reminding you that you have limits. Here’s what PsychologyToday…

How to Tell if You’re Raising an Empathetic Child

We can all agree that being able to vicariously experience someone else’s feelings is an admirable quality. It would be hard to argue that having empathy is a bad thing. Having well developed empathy is necessary in order to have a relationship, a family, children; you know, a life. The reason is because empathy helps you put yourself in someone else’s shoes. The more empathy you have the better understanding you have of what someone else is going through….

How Your Words Affect Your Actions

I’m currently working through a Nathaniel Branden book called The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. I’ve been working through this book for a while because it is very intense work and I’m a busy mom. For those of you who don’t know, Nathaniel Branden was a prominent psychotherapist in the 1960’s. He promoted the philosophy of Ayn Rand and is known for his work on self-esteem.1 After you read Branden (and I highly suggest that you do) try reading a Rand novel,…

How to Implement a Healthy Bedtime Routine

Last week I talked about why my family implements a bedtime. There are a lot of people who think that bedtimes go against the peaceful parenting rules but I disagree. Obviously, there are some methods of enforcing the bedtime that break those rules and that is why I thought we should discuss how to implement a healthy bedtime routine. No force involved. My husband and I started implementing our son’s bedtime when he was a month old. Wait…what?…

Why We Have a Bedtime

  I know a lot of peaceful parents who don’t have a bedtime. Obviously, this is perfectly fine if it works for you and your family. I want to be clear here, I do not think that you are doing anything wrong if you don’t have a bedtime and no one in your family is suffering. More power to you. I honestly wish I could do it that way. This is more for people who may have heard the…

Live With Integrity

About a month ago I was on the phone having a conversation with my older brother when I got the idea for this post, though I didn’t know it just yet. When talking to this man you know you will get a genuine and quality conversation. There is always a chance that you will be glued to your phone for three hours (or more). But the thing is, you won’t even notice the time because the ideas you…

Stop Giving Ultimatums and Start Giving Choices

One of the quickest ways to get into an infuriating power struggle with your child is to give them an  ultimatum. “Clean your room or you’re not playing outside.” “Finish your vegetables or you won’t get desert.” “Stop being loud or  you’re going to bed early.” These are all examples of ultimatums. While some of these might be fair natural consequences presenting them in ultimatum form will always result badly. You Can Get Free Gift Cards For Shopping,…

The A, B, C’s of Childcare Hell

On my About Peace of Cake Parenting page I vaguely mentioned how our family dynamic was rocky for the first couple of years. Something I unintentionally omitted from that page is that my husband and I had separated for about a year and half due to our dysfunction and lack of healthy communication skills, one of my major regrets in life. While we were separated I found my way to a podcast called Free Domain Radio hosted by Stefan Molyneux. I…

Why You Absolutely Need to Schedule Me Time Everyday

Do you ever feel selfish when you ask your kids to leave you be for an hour so you can read your new book? How about when you go to the gym, take an extra long bath, or just simply want to sip your coffee hot at the table for a few minutes before you make breakfast? You feel like your kids deserve your time, your heart, your soul, and if you use any of that for yourself then…

How My Husband and I Homeschool as a Team

This time last year I had a full time job. I was working 40 plus hours a week and so was my husband. My daughter was in child care (cringe) and my son was in public school (double cringe). Months before this I had already swallowed the red pill that I had made a mistake by working and putting my child in any kind of alternative care. Basically, every minute of those 40 plus hours was pure hell…