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Parents Are Not Exempt From Apologizing

We have all made mistakes as parents. I am certainly not exempt from relapsing into the bad communication that was provided to me as a child. Being a peaceful parent does not mean being a perfect parent. Who even knows what a perfect parent would look like? I’ll be the first to admit that I think a perfect parent is something that doesn’t exist. I found myself apologizing to one of my littles again the other day. That…

Why Your Being Fat is Bad for Your Child

This topic is uncomfortable. It will probably piss some people off. I might even loose some followers because of it. I get it, talking about how being fat is bad is not “politically correct”. Too bad. It is not my job to make you feel good. It is not my job to be “politically correct”. It is my job to tell the truth. It is my job, as a blogger about peaceful parenting, to inform you of the…

The A,B,C’s of Public School Hell

Oh where, oh where, do I begin? Public school is a horrible place for children. It is wretched in all of the worst ways. It is an absolutely soul crushing, mind destroying, individuality demolishing environment. Get good and comfy because this is going to be a bit lengthy.Just like a frog, or a pig, in a crappy high school science experiment, let me start dissecting my thoughts on this: 25 (plus) students to one teacher, common core (becoming…

The Right to Judgement

My husband and I were having one of our nightly conversations, when he said, “who am I to judge?”. I have said this in the past, as I’m sure many of you have. For some reason, when he said it this time I felt a strong push back against the entire phrase. I thought this is kind of a ridiculous thing to say. Before I continued the conversation with my husband, I rushed to the bedroom to document…

The Power Struggle is Real

Let me start by defining what a power struggle is. When you try to impose your will on, or decide for your child without a negotiation or a conversation taking place; and your child is refusing to let you get away with it. Do you find yourself in arguments with your child several times a day? You know, the ones that come out of nowhere and escalate way too fast? Those are power struggles. I have been thinking about how…

4, 3, 2, 1…Meltdown

Meltdowns can be extremely challenging for both the child and the parent. What most parents tend to do, usually without even realizing it, is to “meltdown” themselves. This is counterproductive and creates more stress for you and your child. We must first acknowledge that our children have meltdowns because they have seen their parents handle stress poorly. Looking rationally at a meltdown: it is simply a child unable to, reasonably, deal with the situation in front of them. Negotiation…

Boys Will be Boys or so They Say but Boys Need Their Dads to be Men One Day

  Today I want to talk about DADS! I have been thinking a lot about the importance of a dad’s presence in a child’s life. Especially, in the life of a young boy. I would say it’s crucial, to put it mildly. Once you see the statistics you will realize why crucial might be too delicate a word.  I started noticing the family becoming less valued. I found myself wondering, how did this happen? Unfortunately, I believe it…

Why Spanking Your Child is Abuse

This title may seem a bit profound, because it is. I want the idea of using physical force against a child to be viewed one way and one way only, wrong. One of my moral principles is “you don’t use force against me, I don’t use force against you”. I’ll throw a caveat here, just to be safe; if your child is in danger, physically removing them from said danger would be classified as protection, not aggression.. Now,…