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How You Lose Authority When You Spank

Push back against anyone who is anti-spanking is inevitable considering a majority of parents in America still spank their children. “In 2014, according to a nationally representative survey, 76 percent of men, and 65 percent of women, 18 to 65 years old, agreed that a child sometimes needs a “good hard spanking.” This proportion has declined modestly since 1986 among women, while approval among males, after declining into the early 1990’s, has remained steady.”(1) Let me preface this…

Why Your Being Fat is Bad for Your Child

This topic is uncomfortable. It will probably piss some people off. I might even loose some followers because of it. I get it, talking about how being fat is bad is not “politically correct”. Too bad. It is not my job to make you feel good. It is not my job to be “politically correct”. It is my job to tell the truth. It is my job, as a blogger about peaceful parenting, to inform you of the…

Solving Sibling Conflicts

Do you ever feel like t you are able to accomplish is standing in the middle of the war ground of your children’s battles, on some days? I know how you feel. It always seemed like this occurred when I was trying to do anything productive. I would get interrupted, roughly 50 times, to solve simple problems. Problems that seemed to escalate quite quickly without my assistance. I started to become frustrated with this once I had, not only,…

The Importance of Virtue

This title probably sounds redundant; most people wouldn’t argue the importance of virtue. Yet, I feel like this simple premise gets lost somewhere between understanding it and living it. Especially when it comes to parenting. We tell our children not to scream, yet the majority of parents yell. We tell our children not to hit, yet the majority of parents spank.” About 94 percent of parents of children ages three to four in the United States report having…

The Land of Misadventure

Sometimes when our children have accidents, we make the problem bigger by not handling the situation properly. We freak out, we become frustrated, and we completely disregard the fact that sometimes (a lot of times) our children learn lessons naturally, without our criticism. They know when they have made a mistake. As you have probably noticed at this point, accountability is a trend. Naturally, my point is, it teaches them personal responsibility to realize their mistakes on their own….

The Power Struggle is Real

Let me start by defining what a power struggle is. When you try to impose your will on, or decide for your child without a negotiation or a conversation taking place; and your child is refusing to let you get away with it. Do you find yourself in arguments with your child several times a day? You know, the ones that come out of nowhere and escalate way too fast? Those are power struggles. I have been thinking about how…

I Was Wrong, You Were Right

Personal responsibility isn’t always easy. In fact, I would argue that it is one of the hardest things about life. It is, however, one of the most meaningful gifts you can give to your child. You, as the parent, are setting a standard of living for your child. Your actions, and non-actions, are being absorbed by your child all day. If you are unwilling to hold yourself accountable, then you can expect that your child will not to…

4, 3, 2, 1…Meltdown

Meltdowns can be extremely challenging for both the child and the parent. What most parents tend to do, usually without even realizing it, is to “meltdown” themselves. This is counterproductive and creates more stress for you and your child. We must first acknowledge that our children have meltdowns because they have seen their parents handle stress poorly. Looking rationally at a meltdown: it is simply a child unable to, reasonably, deal with the situation in front of them. Negotiation…

Let Them be Little

Peaceful-parenting is about doing everything in your power to ensure your child’s life stays constant, harmonious, and undisturbed. This will include letting them explore their thoughts, feelings, ideas, and actions. Of course, sometimes their actions are wild, but given the liberty to act freely will naturally lead to more productive growth. Before I fully dedicated myself to peaceful-parenting I found myself being very intolerant of simple things. Which was wrong. It is wrong to punish a child (period)…

Why Spanking Your Child is Abuse

This title may seem a bit profound, because it is. I want the idea of using physical force against a child to be viewed one way and one way only, wrong. One of my moral principles is “you don’t use force against me, I don’t use force against you”. I’ll throw a caveat here, just to be safe; if your child is in danger, physically removing them from said danger would be classified as protection, not aggression.. Now,…