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Honest Confessions of an Imperfect Parent

I am the first to admit that I am not a perfect parent. I genuinely have no concept of what that would even mean. I vaguely discuss how I wasn’t always a peaceful parent in About Peace of Cake Parenting. What I couldn’t possibly portray on that one page was: How many times I experience defeat. How I am unsure if the bad habits that were hardwired into me as a child will ever be completely gone or…

Solving Sibling Conflicts

Do you ever feel like t you are able to accomplish is standing in the middle of the war ground of your children’s battles, on some days? I know how you feel. It always seemed like this occurred when I was trying to do anything productive. I would get interrupted, roughly 50 times, to solve simple problems. Problems that seemed to escalate quite quickly without my assistance. I started to become frustrated with this once I had, not only,…

The Right to Judgement

My husband and I were having one of our nightly conversations, when he said, “who am I to judge?”. I have said this in the past, as I’m sure many of you have. For some reason, when he said it this time I felt a strong push back against the entire phrase. I thought this is kind of a ridiculous thing to say. Before I continued the conversation with my husband, I rushed to the bedroom to document…

The Power Struggle is Real

Let me start by defining what a power struggle is. When you try to impose your will on, or decide for your child without a negotiation or a conversation taking place; and your child is refusing to let you get away with it. Do you find yourself in arguments with your child several times a day? You know, the ones that come out of nowhere and escalate way too fast? Those are power struggles. I have been thinking about how…

Stop Giving Non-Answers

Being a parent, your brain is constantly swimming in a sea of thoughts; am I doing the right thing, how can I improve, are all the bills paid, do I need anything from the store, what’s for dinner, etc. Children, being the beautiful curious creatures that they are, ask a lot of questions. This is the natural state of an intelligent human. Question asking leads to answers, which leads to knowledge. Of course, we are tired, we have…