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Stop Giving Ultimatums and Start Giving Choices

One of the quickest ways to get into an infuriating power struggle with your child is to give them an  ultimatum. “Clean your room or you’re not playing outside.” “Finish your vegetables or you won’t get desert.” “Stop being loud or  you’re going to bed early.” These are all examples of ultimatums. While some of these might be fair natural consequences presenting them in ultimatum form will always result badly. You Can Get Free Gift Cards For Shopping,…

Honest Confessions of an Imperfect Parent

I am the first to admit that I am not a perfect parent. I genuinely have no concept of what that would even mean. I vaguely discuss how I wasn’t always a peaceful parent in About Peace of Cake Parenting. What I couldn’t possibly portray on that one page was: How many times I experience defeat. How I am unsure if the bad habits that were hardwired into me as a child will ever be completely gone or…

The Importance of Virtue

This title probably sounds redundant; most people wouldn’t argue the importance of virtue. Yet, I feel like this simple premise gets lost somewhere between understanding it and living it. Especially when it comes to parenting. We tell our children not to scream, yet the majority of parents yell. We tell our children not to hit, yet the majority of parents spank.” About 94 percent of parents of children ages three to four in the United States report having…

Happy Man Happy Home

Some of you might be saying, “I thought this was a parenting blog, this sounds more like relationship advice”. A strong relationship between husband and wife equals a happy, healthy, and functional home. That is what I am striving for. I’m just going one step further into a healthy relationship than was defined in Things Parents Should do in Front of Their Kids. I can also see some of you thinking, “what about, happy wife happy life”. I…

Things Parents Should do in Front of Their Kids

Parents are the foundation of the family. Their bond created the family. The way the parents interact teaches the child how to act in their own relationships. Not just romantic relationships when the child is older, but all of them, including the one they have with you. Your child learns by absorbing the interactions of the relationships surrounding them. Most people think, `if I show them love and kindness then they will learn how to be loving and…

Parent to Child Contract

Have you ever felt like you are in a one sided relationship with your child? Well, you are. As parents, we all feel the vexation from being overwhelmed on a daily basis. When you decide to have a baby you enter into, what I like to think of as, a contract. Let’s not be pedantic, I am using an analogy here. This analogy, obviously, breaks down after a while because contracts usually bind two parties to certain obligations. This…

The Land of Misadventure

Sometimes when our children have accidents, we make the problem bigger by not handling the situation properly. We freak out, we become frustrated, and we completely disregard the fact that sometimes (a lot of times) our children learn lessons naturally, without our criticism. They know when they have made a mistake. As you have probably noticed at this point, accountability is a trend. Naturally, my point is, it teaches them personal responsibility to realize their mistakes on their own….

Boys Will be Boys or so They Say but Boys Need Their Dads to be Men One Day

  Today I want to talk about DADS! I have been thinking a lot about the importance of a dad’s presence in a child’s life. Especially, in the life of a young boy. I would say it’s crucial, to put it mildly. Once you see the statistics you will realize why crucial might be too delicate a word.  I started noticing the family becoming less valued. I found myself wondering, how did this happen? Unfortunately, I believe it…