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The Autonomy of a Child

There are a few things that I think can completely rearrange the dynamic of your entire family: aggression (obviously), manipulation, passivity, inconsistency, and expecting instant gratification. This is because your child is not a computer, or a robot. Thinking that you should be able to input information and then have them immediately output the action every time is ludicrous, and it’s just asking for trouble. I swear children are on a mission to remind you, and the world,…

10 Reasons I Don’t Want My Children to Fear Me

I am constantly thinking about the dysfunctional mindset I had before becoming a peaceful parent. I think about how so much of what I thought was influenced by things friends and family said, along with things on TV and social media. One of the things I’ve consistently seen is having children that fear you being a point of pride. Looking at it now I see that this mindset is based on the premise that fear equals respect. I…

Why We Have a Bedtime

  I know a lot of peaceful parents who don’t have a bedtime. Obviously, this is perfectly fine if it works for you and your family. I want to be clear here, I do not think that you are doing anything wrong if you don’t have a bedtime and no one in your family is suffering. More power to you. I honestly wish I could do it that way. This is more for people who may have heard the…

Live With Integrity

About a month ago I was on the phone having a conversation with my older brother when I got the idea for this post, though I didn’t know it just yet. When talking to this man you know you will get a genuine and quality conversation. There is always a chance that you will be glued to your phone for three hours (or more). But the thing is, you won’t even notice the time because the ideas you…

The A, B, C’s of Childcare Hell

On my About Peace of Cake Parenting page I vaguely mentioned how our family dynamic was rocky for the first couple of years. Something I unintentionally omitted from that page is that my husband and I had separated for about a year and half due to our dysfunction and lack of healthy communication skills, one of my major regrets in life. While we were separated I found my way to a podcast called Free Domain Radio hosted by Stefan Molyneux. I…

I Could be Writing

Do you ever feel like you are not where you should be? Like every time you are doing one thing you should be doing another? Like you’re always a step, or twelve, behind where you should be?   Yeah, me too.   You are not alone. I think it is easy for parents, especially, to feel this way because our children get most of our time. Which only means, we are being good parents. It is easy to…

What You’re Doing Wrong as a Homeschool Parent

I’m kidding. But seriously, I have never questioned if I am failing or succeeding so often during a single adventure in my entire life. Since you decided to read this article, I’m going to guess we share that feeling. First, we are probably all doing better than we think. How can I tell? We have all concerned ourselves enough with our child’s education to come to the conclusion that homeschool is better than public school. A great start…

Fact or Opinion

Have you ever wondered how to stop the minimal sibling bickering such as: he said my doll was dumb, she said her car was cooler than mine, he said I’m not doing a good job coloring? Look no further my friend. I have a very simple solution to this problem and it works beautifully. I’d like to note that children are not being mean when they say these things; they are trying to assert themselves. Of course, with…

Finding the Balance

I am fascinated with how people deal with their children. I find myself observing parents at grocery stores, play grounds, and other places. I actually get lost like a child does when they see something that makes their wheels turn. You know when your child is doing something and you are trying to talk to them but they can’t hear a word you are saying because they are so entrenched in what they are seeing. That’s me when…

You Can’t Make Me

Four famous words uttered at least once by every kid at some point: you can’t make me. I know when I was a child this started a war between my parents and I. They were willing to use force and I was one quarter their size; of course they could make me. Every parent has the physical ability to make their child do almost anything. When you threaten a child’s well being their natural survival instincts kick in…