The Power Struggle is Real

Let me start by defining what a power struggle is. When you try to impose your will on, or decide for your child without a negotiation or a conversation taking place; and your child is refusing to let you get away with it. Do you find yourself in arguments with your child several times a day? You know, the ones that come out of nowhere and escalate way too fast? Those are power struggles. I have been thinking about how…

Stop Giving Non-Answers

Being a parent, your brain is constantly swimming in a sea of thoughts; am I doing the right thing, how can I improve, are all the bills paid, do I need anything from the store, what’s for dinner, etc. Children, being the beautiful curious creatures that they are, ask a lot of questions. This is the natural state of an intelligent human. Question asking leads to answers, which leads to knowledge. Of course, we are tired, we have…

I Was Wrong, You Were Right

Personal responsibility isn’t always easy. In fact, I would argue that it is one of the hardest things about life. It is, however, one of the most meaningful gifts you can give to your child. You, as the parent, are setting a standard of living for your child. Your actions, and non-actions, are being absorbed by your child all day. If you are unwilling to hold yourself accountable, then you can expect that your child will not to…

4, 3, 2, 1…Meltdown

Meltdowns can be extremely challenging for both the child and the parent. What most parents tend to do, usually without even realizing it, is to “meltdown” themselves. This is counterproductive and creates more stress for you and your child. We must first acknowledge that our children have meltdowns because they have seen their parents handle stress poorly. Looking rationally at a meltdown: it is simply a child unable to, reasonably, deal with the situation in front of them. Negotiation…

Let Them be Little

Peaceful-parenting is about doing everything in your power to ensure your child’s life stays constant, harmonious, and undisturbed. This will include letting them explore their thoughts, feelings, ideas, and actions. Of course, sometimes their actions are wild, but given the liberty to act freely will naturally lead to more productive growth. Before I fully dedicated myself to peaceful-parenting I found myself being very intolerant of simple things. Which was wrong. It is wrong to punish a child (period)…

Boys Will be Boys or so They Say but Boys Need Their Dads to be Men One Day

  Today I want to talk about DADS! I have been thinking a lot about the importance of a dad’s presence in a child’s life. Especially, in the life of a young boy. I would say it’s crucial, to put it mildly. Once you see the statistics you will realize why crucial might be too delicate a word.  I started noticing the family becoming less valued. I found myself wondering, how did this happen? Unfortunately, I believe it…

Why Spanking Your Child is Abuse

This title may seem a bit profound, because it is. I want the idea of using physical force against a child to be viewed one way and one way only, wrong. One of my moral principles is “you don’t use force against me, I don’t use force against you”. I’ll throw a caveat here, just to be safe; if your child is in danger, physically removing them from said danger would be classified as protection, not aggression.. Now,…