Catherine Samaritoni'sPosts

The Importance of Self Correction

Our conscience will tell us when we are doing something that we are not supposed to be doing. Sometimes it comes in the form of a voice in your head and sometimes it comes as a pain in your gut. Either way, it is our job to examine these indicators so that we stay on the path we have been working our butts off to pave. Now, our conscience isn’t always there. Occasionally, it will fall asleep on…

The Autonomy of a Child

There are a few things that I think can completely rearrange the dynamic of your entire family: aggression (obviously), manipulation, passivity, inconsistency, and expecting instant gratification. This is because your child is not a computer, or a robot. Thinking that you should be able to input information and then have them immediately output the action every time is ludicrous, and it’s just asking for trouble. I swear children are on a mission to remind you, and the world,…

Listen to Your Gut

Did you know that you have a second brain? Yeah, it’s in your gut. You might feel nauseous before making a big decision; that’s your gut telling you you’re stressed. You might feel like you have a knot in your stomach after you did something you knew was wrong; that’s your gut holding you accountable. You might feel flutters when you get into a heated debate; that’s your gut reminding you that you have limits. Here’s what PsychologyToday…

How to Tell if You’re Raising an Empathetic Child

We can all agree that being able to vicariously experience someone else’s feelings is an admirable quality. It would be hard to argue that having empathy is a bad thing. Having well developed empathy is necessary in order to have a relationship, a family, children; you know, a life. The reason is because empathy helps you put yourself in someone else’s shoes. The more empathy you have the better understanding you have of what someone else is going through….

If You Let Your Kids Make Donuts Instead of Doing School

Chances are, the results will be more gratifying than you’d expect. As homeschooling parents we try our best to stay on track while making everything exciting and interesting. However there are somethings that require lots of practice, like: writing, reading, and basic math. You can’t just put together one fun math lesson and generate an expert. You have to make mental pathways in the brain to memorize your basic math problems, for example. This happens through repetition of the lesson….

Holding Yourself Accountable is Not the Same as Beating Yourself Up

Reading even one of my blog posts you’d pick up on the fact that I hold personal responsibility as a significant virtue. If we don’t hold ourselves and our family members accountable for our actions, then our chances for having a happy healthy functioning family significantly decreases. Recently I found myself indulging in the great injustice of beating myself up instead of holding myself accountable. I say indulging because our minds trick us into thinking that this mental…

8 Things I Want to See Parents Doing More Frequently

I’ll admit it, I like to parent watch. You know, like how you people watch, but with parents. Don’t get me wrong I totally observe people without kids when I’m in line at the bank, at an airport, or at a doctors appointment. But my eyes are usually drawn to the people who have a kid with them. I’m fascinated by how different people respond differently to almost identical situations with their children. I like to compare those…

How Your Words Affect Your Actions

I’m currently working through a Nathaniel Branden book called The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. I’ve been working through this book for a while because it is very intense work and I’m a busy mom. For those of you who don’t know, Nathaniel Branden was a prominent psychotherapist in the 1960’s. He promoted the philosophy of Ayn Rand and is known for his work on self-esteem.1 After you read Branden (and I highly suggest that you do) try reading a Rand novel,…

10 Reasons I Don’t Want My Children to Fear Me

I am constantly thinking about the dysfunctional mindset I had before becoming a peaceful parent. I think about how so much of what I thought was influenced by things friends and family said, along with things on TV and social media. One of the things I’ve consistently seen is having children that fear you being a point of pride. Looking at it now I see that this mindset is based on the premise that fear equals respect. I…

How to Implement a Healthy Bedtime Routine

Last week I talked about why my family implements a bedtime. There are a lot of people who think that bedtimes go against the peaceful parenting rules but I disagree. Obviously, there are some methods of enforcing the bedtime that break those rules and that is why I thought we should discuss how to implement a healthy bedtime routine. No force involved. My husband and I started implementing our son’s bedtime when he was a month old. Wait…what?…